Our next guest blog comes from Chris Davey, a PhD researcher in Peace Studies at the University of Bradford. He has a busy life balancing his research and publications, working part-time (including here at Career Development Services) and spending time with his family, so here he talks about getting the work-life balance right.
How would I fit salt and eggs in to a jar? Could I fit it all in? Can I even fit the lid back on after I have crammed it all in? Why do I feel like my jar is never big enough? Why am I not able to savour the things I enjoy, and too often get stuck with the things that stink?
As a wily teen my mother often scolded me for “burning the candle at both ends”, implying that doing too much would be bad for me. I largely ignored this wisdom until halfway through my undergraduate degree, studying full-time and working nights part-time, I fell asleep at the wheel of my car on the way to work, and rolled through a red light. Fortunately, nobody was seriously hurt. However, my mother called me the next day, and repeating her mantra. Rather begrudgingly, the penny dropped.
I would like to think that I am now older and wiser as a post-graduate student who still works, studies, and now have my own children. The lesson of cramming too much into life remains with me. The simple demonstration of the eggs and salt in a jar has helped me figure out how to be safer and less rubbish at prioritising. How, then, can one balance the important big things in life with the small stuff, when they both need attention?
The demonstration goes like this, if you pour all the salt in at once, you might fit one egg in, however, if the order is reversed you can happily jam it all in. The moral here is that the big, meaningful, important things in life can be dealt with first, not only in order to accomplish such, but also to fit in the little bits. Think: “don’t sweat the small stuff” meets “live life to the full”.
Aside from no longer owning a car, I have learned to safely prioritise the important things, getting the most out of life. As a PhD student with responsibilities at home and work, I still often feel like I am constantly juggling. However, I juggle, burn my candle, stuff things in the jar or whatever, with confidence knowing that life can be enjoyable and fulfilling. Although my PhD won’t write itself, I happily fit it in around the bigger things.
Find more of Chris’s writing at chrispdavey.blogspot.co.uk. If you’d like to talk to one of our career advisers about your career options then please pop in or give us a call today on 01274 234991. You can also get help with time management skills from the Academic Skills service.